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Your Ikigai Might Be Your Family
Read more →: Your Ikigai Might Be Your FamilyThe Japanese word ikigai describes “the reason you get up in the morning”: the point where what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and — when possible — what you can be paid for, all meet. Popularized in the West through books and articles about the longevity of the people of…
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Being Kind to Yourself: Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion
Read more →: Being Kind to Yourself: Kristin Neff’s Self-CompassionStarting in 2003, psychologist Kristin Neff, of the University of Texas at Austin, gave scientific shape to a concept that is today among the most studied in positive psychology: “self-compassion.” Neff breaks it down into three mutually reinforcing elements: self-kindness (instead of harsh self-judgment), common humanity (recognizing that failing and suffering are part of the…
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Iris Murdoch: Love Is the Discovery That Something Outside Us Is Real
Read more →: Iris Murdoch: Love Is the Discovery That Something Outside Us Is RealIris Murdoch (1919-1999), an Irish-born British novelist and philosopher, published The Sovereignty of Good in 1970, one of the most influential texts of twentieth-century moral philosophy. At the center of the book is an idea that has crossed decades while staying surprisingly relevant: most of our moral failures don’t come from weak will, but from…
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Writing to Feel Better: James Pennebaker’s Experiment
Read more →: Writing to Feel Better: James Pennebaker’s ExperimentIn 1986, psychologist James Pennebaker and colleague Sandra Beall published an experiment in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology that became a classic of health psychology: they asked a group of university students to write for fifteen to twenty minutes a day, for four consecutive days, about a difficult or traumatic emotional experience, while a control…
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The Gut-Brain Axis: How Your Gut Shapes Your Mood
Read more →: The Gut-Brain Axis: How Your Gut Shapes Your MoodFor some years now, scientific research has been paying growing attention to a two-way communication channel between the gut and the brain, called the “gut-brain axis”: an ongoing conversation carried through the vagus nerve, the immune system, and substances produced by the trillions of bacteria living in our intestines — the so-called microbiota. A review…
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Buddha and Impermanence: Why Accepting Change Is Good for You
Read more →: Buddha and Impermanence: Why Accepting Change Is Good for YouAmong the three “marks of existence” at the heart of the Buddha’s teaching, handed down in the Pali Canon, is anicca: impermanence. Everything conditioned — the body, relationships, moods, even the seasons — arises, changes, and passes, without exception. According to this teaching, much of human suffering (dukkha) arises not from change itself, but from…
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Daily Kindness Holds a Couple Together More Than Grand Declarations
Read more →: Daily Kindness Holds a Couple Together More Than Grand DeclarationsA study published in 2017 in the journal Emotion, from the American Psychological Association, followed a group of newlywed couples for weeks, asking them to record every day the small “compassionate acts” they carried out for their partner — making coffee, giving a sincere compliment, taking care of a chore without being asked — alongside…
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The Breath That Switches Off Anxiety: The Cyclic Sighing Discovery
Read more →: The Breath That Switches Off Anxiety: The Cyclic Sighing DiscoveryIn 2023, a team of Stanford researchers led by Melis Yilmaz Balban together with David Spiegel and Andrew Huberman published a study in Cell Reports Medicine comparing four different five-minute daily breathing practices against classic mindfulness meditation, over a full month. The most interesting finding: all the breathing practices improved mood more than meditation alone,…
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Small Family Rituals Strengthen the Sense of Belonging
Read more →: Small Family Rituals Strengthen the Sense of BelongingSunday lunch always at the same time, a silly phrase said only within the family before leaving on a trip, the same fixed bedtime ritual: these are small repeated gestures, carrying a meaning that goes beyond their practical function. Psychologist Barbara Fiese, of the University of Illinois, led one of the most cited reviews on…
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Simone Weil: Attention Is the Purest Form of Generosity
Read more →: Simone Weil: Attention Is the Purest Form of GenerositySimone Weil (1909-1943) was a French philosopher who defied convention: born into a comfortable, brilliant family, she chose to work in a factory to understand working-class hardship firsthand, and died young during the Second World War. Among her most-read works is Waiting for God (published posthumously in 1950), where she develops an idea that still…
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Quality Time with Kids Matters More Than Quantity — With One Condition
Read more →: Quality Time with Kids Matters More Than Quantity — With One ConditionAnyone with children knows the guilt of never feeling like there’s enough time, squeezed between work, commitments, and exhaustion. A 2023 study published on ScienceDirect and indexed on PubMed looked directly at this question, examining the relationship between “quality time” spent between parents and children and children’s “flourishing” level — a positive-psychology measure of overall…
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Marcus Aurelius: What Depends on Us Is Never the World, but How We See It
Read more →: Marcus Aurelius: What Depends on Us Is Never the World, but How We See ItMarcus Aurelius never wrote his Meditations thinking anyone would read them: they were private notes, in Greek, that the Roman emperor jotted down for himself during military campaigns, roughly between 170 and 180 AD, to remind himself how to stay steady under the weight of power and war. Out of those notes grew one of…
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One Must Imagine Sisyphus Happy: The Lesson of Albert Camus
Read more →: One Must Imagine Sisyphus Happy: The Lesson of Albert CamusIn Greek mythology, Sisyphus is condemned by the gods to push a boulder to the top of a mountain, only to watch it roll back down every time, in an endless cycle. Philosopher Albert Camus chose this very image as the title of his famous 1942 essay, The Myth of Sisyphus, using it as a…
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Sharing Good News Is as Good for You as Living It
Read more →: Sharing Good News Is as Good for You as Living ItWhen something good happens to us — good news at work, a small milestone, even a detail that simply made our day — our first instinct is to look for someone to tell. In 2004, psychologist Shelly Gable and colleagues Harry Reis, Emily Impett, and Evan Asher published a study in the Journal of Personality…
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Aporophobia: The Word That Reveals Who We Really Reject
Read more →: Aporophobia: The Word That Reveals Who We Really RejectThere’s a word that, in recent years, has begun appearing in Spanish dictionaries and, slowly, elsewhere too: aporophobia. It isn’t a technical term reserved for specialists — it’s the precise name for something almost everyone recognizes from direct experience, even if we rarely call it by name: the discomfort, wariness, or instinctive rejection we feel…
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Knowing Your Family Story Makes Children More Resilient
Read more →: Knowing Your Family Story Makes Children More ResilientThere’s a moment that repeats itself in so many homes, almost always around the table: someone tells a family story. The grandfather who biked across the country to meet the grandmother, the aunt who opened the neighborhood’s first shop, someone who lost everything in a hard moment and started over. These may look like simple…
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Confucius: Knowing What You Know (and What You Don’t) Is True Knowledge
Read more →: Confucius: Knowing What You Know (and What You Don’t) Is True KnowledgeThere’s a question that has run through Eastern philosophy for more than twenty-five hundred years, and that today, in an age saturated with information, sounds more relevant than ever: what does it actually mean to know something? In Book II of the Lunyu — the Analects, the collection of teachings handed down by Confucius’s disciples…
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Emotions Are Intelligence: The Lesson of Martha Nussbaum
Read more →: Emotions Are Intelligence: The Lesson of Martha NussbaumAs children, many of us were taught to “control” our emotions, as if they were an intruder to be kept in check while true intelligence lived elsewhere, in cold, calculating reason. American philosopher Martha Nussbaum, one of the most influential voices in contemporary moral philosophy, turns that idea on its head. In her book Upheavals…
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Team Hoyt: The Father Who Ran 1,000 Races for His Son
Read more →: Team Hoyt: The Father Who Ran 1,000 Races for His SonThere’s a sentence that has crossed almost fifty years and reached millions of people, spoken by a young man who could only communicate through a computer: “Dad, when I’m running, it feels like I’m not handicapped.” Rick Hoyt was born with cerebral palsy caused by birth asphyxia: the umbilical cord had wrapped around his neck,…
